Studies Reveal Rate Of Infidelity Growing

Infidelity…it’s a disease for which there seems to be neither cause nor remedy. And with the number of extramarital affairs growing at an alarming rate, Michigan investigative services such as Lakeside Investigations often work around the clock to help alleviate emotional pain for the victimized spouse.

Statistics vary for the rate of infidelity that is taking place due to the amount of secrecy involved. But one thing that’s certain is more and more people are admitting to adulterous affairs than in the past.

According to one study, 22 percent of married men and 14 percent of married women admitted to straying during their marriage. Other studies show much higher percentages in recent years, even up to 55 percent or greater for men.

Studies also show that 70 percent of women and 54 percent of men did not know that the extramarital affair was taking place. This is why Chris Charow of Lakeside Investigations in St. Clair Shores, Michigan believes his services are needful in today’s society.

“With statistics showing more occurrences of infidelity than ever and the number of online affairs growing as well, a suspecting husband or wife should have a trustworthy private investigator to help verify their suspicions or alleviate their fears. It’s a much safer option than trying to investigate, on their own,” says Charow, who is the Lead Investigator and Director of Operations for Lakeside Investigations.

Is adultery a symptom of our society? Unfortunately, many TV shows portray infidelity as having no consequences. This couldn’t be further from the truth. Infidelity hurts real people and destroys the lives of all involved, including children and other family members.

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The Law Should Punish Cheating Spouses and Their Lovers

Finally, there is a way for scorned spouses to make the person who broke up their marriage pay.

Literally.

Laws in seven states, including Utah, North Carolina, South Dakota, Hawaii, Mississippi, Illinois and New Mexico, now allow spouses of adulterous mates to sue their partner's lover, according to CNN.com.

These "alienation of affection" lawsuits might be the best way for spurned spouses to keep their wandering partners in check. If their adulterous mates cannot find lovers, they cannot cheat. These lovers are as responsible for the adultery as their married partners and should face the consequences for violating a legally binding agreement.

However, a person who was unaware that his or her new lover was married should not pay for his or her bad judgment.

Of course, there are issues with these lawsuits. There's the possibility that married couples could dupe a wealthy person into sleeping with either of them in order to collect damages. Fortunately, the legal system is designed to prevent these dishonest people from collecting damages they are not owed.

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The Infidelity Quiz

In a world where half of all marriages end in divorce, and many people are cheating or being cheated on, faithfulness suddenly seems like a very tricky thing. Some people may think it okay to cheat while allegedly committed to someone, while others know how to remain faithful to their one and only. What do you believe, and do you think yourself capable of infidelity? Take our quiz to find out.

Readers Debate ‘Arranged’ Infidelity

I received hundreds of replies to my column from last week, “What to do when a spouse OKs sleeping around,” which addressed a man’s unhappiness with his wife’s offer that he discreetly sleep with other women, since she no longer has any desire for sex.

Clearly, people have very strong feelings about this. The subject of whether or not you are having enough sex within marriage is emotionally charged, as is the question of what exactly constitutes infidelity.

Houston Computer Forensics Firm Launches Partnership with Private Investigator to Uncover ‘Infidelity Secrets’ for Clients Facing Divorce

A Houston computer forensics firm has joined forces with noted private investigator Otis Owens to help desperate married clients find an answer to the painful question:

“Is my husband (or wife) having an affair?”

The new alliance between Owens and eDiscovery Forensics, Inc., “allows us to better service people who are going through the agony of a divorce,” says eDiscovery co-owner Gary Huestis. “We get to the truth by using the 21st century science of computer forensics – the recovery of deleted, damaged and otherwise hidden computer information,” says Huestis.

Husband Finds Evidence of Wife Cheating on Wii

Every console has a number of uses, but the Wii is thus far the only one I’ve heard of catching a cheating spouse. An unnamed soldier wrote an e-mail to GoNintendo recently describing how he went to serve overseas in 2006 and found out that his wife had cheated on him at one point in October. The infidelity apparently stopped, but when he returned home this past summer, his family and friends began telling him of further incidents. Eventually this all took a toll on the marriage and he moved out and filed for divorce. Recently though, he started casually going through his Wii to look over some of the Miis he had created:

As I go through the characters I see there is a Mii that I have not created. It’s a guy strikingly similar to PBA Bowler *name deleted*. To be sure of this, I went into the Wil Message Board and click on the Calendar option. Through this menu I was able to identify the many nights my wife’s Mii and this ‘other’ Mii Character played Wii Bowling. It became clearly obvious that she couldn’t explain her way out of this. Especially since she claims that she never had contact with him after her alleged ‘kiss’ in October 2006.

Your Cheating Spouse: Recovering From an Affair and Rebuilding a Relationship

For 18 years, Anne Bercht thought she had the perfect marriage. Then one day her husband, Brian Bercht, told her he was having an affair.

“For 18 years, I was in a good marriage,” said Bercht, who lives in the Canada’s western-most province, British Columbia.

“I really prioritized marriage,” she said. “My husband and I both prioritized marriage. And when he came home one night and said he was having an affair, I was shocked. The first words I said, which was a mistake, were ‘I forgive you.’ And then, of course, I told him he could never see her again.”